Fertility Friends

I have a lot of great friends. Ones I've known since elementary school and ones I've just met. Ones that I work with and ones that I party with. I have a group of very dear girlfriends and hold them very close (and they know it!). I am who I am because of them and can't imagine my life without them.
Lately, some of my greatest friends, have been my Fertility Friends. No one should EVER go through their infertility journey alone; you need to have someone who's been there and knows all that the journey can bring. Of course my dearest girlfriends were always there for me, but my Fertility Friends were there for me in ways no one else can explain unless you've been through it yourself. Looking back, I am a luckier person having gone through this journey, as I've gained some great new friends. Although I hope to never go through this journey again, I know will always be there for me and I hope they know I'll always be there for them as well.

Tiffany was one of my first Fertility Friends. We had worked together in the past and kept in touch through Facebook. I'm not really sure how it came up, but we realized we were both struggling with infertility and instantly we had a deeper bond.
When J and I first started our journey in December 2010 with our first clinic, Tiffany was also starting with the same clinic and her first IUI was one month after our first. We were there for each other every step of the way. Supporting each other with all the emotions, the questions, the advice, it was so great to have each other while going through the same things.
When we decided to take a break from this clinic due to differences with the Dr. and after 5 failed IUI's, she was my rock and supported me when we decided to switch clinics. She never gave up hope for us and kept me going.
Tiffany got pregnant on her 4th IUI and by this time, we were on our break before starting with the new clinic. I was ecstatic for her!! One of us "won"! But then, I was devastated to learn she miscarried soon thereafter. I was now her rock and did what I could to keep her spirits up and to cheer her on to continue with another IUI. And what a success it was! She was pregnant again..and this time the baby was going nowhere!
This was very hard for me, as by this time we had 2 more failed IUI's and were now researching IVF clinics. Tiffany never gave up on me and knew that although I was super excited for her, she also knew how hard it was for me. She gave me the space I needed and we had a pact that if I couldn't hear about the pregnancy, she wouldn't tell; though thankfully it never came to that as we had quickly picked an IVF clinic and once again, Tiffany was my cheerleader. She even was my chauffeur after my egg retrieval, which I can't thank her enough since I was not a fun passenger.
She was also one of the first to know when we got our news. WE DID IT! We were both pregnant at the same time!! But our friendship doesn't end here.....it's only starting...and I am so thankful for that.

Congratulations Tiffany on your beautiful baby boy! He is so blessed to have you as his mother!